Solo Traveler Tips for Women

With all the travel I do, I've never truly done it solo. To me, it's such a sensory experience that it needs to be shared and analyzed with friends and loved ones. But I do have girlfriends who have traveled abroad solo, and to them I tip my hats.

These tips about traveling solo for women by Rachel Khona came my way, and I thought they'd be good to share. For more information, you can contact kelly at blinkpr dot com or visit Rachel's website at rachelkhona.com.

Ever want to climb Macchu Pichu, lay out on a beach in Thailand, or just take a road trip, but can't find anyone to go with? Solo travel is the answer!

I know what you're thinking. You'll be lonely, bored, it's dangerous, and only tough granola types travel by themselves. Au contraire. I’m 5'1 and I can't leave the house without a full face of makeup. If I could travel solo, anyone can. I've never been lonely or bored. On the contrary, I've had countless adventures and made many friends over the years with whom I've stayed in touch. One of my friends even met her future husband on a solo trip! And traveling solo is no more dangerous than walking around by yourself in your neighborhood.

Traveling solo makes you more approchable, not only to members of the opposite sex but friendly locals and fellow travelers as well. You'll also learn to hone in on your intuition. Without the chatter of someone else's opinion, you learn to rely on your own instincts, a skill that will serve you well in real life too. By relying on your inner strength, you'll have newfound confidence. But traveling solo is an art. If you want to make friends and not spend the entire time talking to yourself, you'll need a game plan.

1. Choose your locale wisely

Certain places attract more solo like-minded travelers than others. For example, if you're jonesing to head over to Central America, stay away from Cancun which, as spring break central, is geared towards large groups. On the flip side, a remote jungle town may not afford you the chance to meet many people as there won't be that many other travelers. Don't make the mistake of thinking you'll befriend all the locals. Keep in mind that while you're on vacation, they're just going about their daily lives. While they might be happy to have you over for dinner or treat you to drinks, they probably won't want to accompany you out every night. Instead, choose something in-between like Montezuma in Costa Rica, Sayulita in Mexico.

2. Eat at the Bar

Sure, it’s a simple way to order another drink, but that's not why you should do it. Eating at the bar provides an easy way to meet other solo diners as well as befriend the bartender who can clue you into the local scene and hook you up with free drinks. If you're staying in town for awhile, try to become a regular. You'll get better service and find it easier to make new friends.

3. Buy a guide geared towards solo travelers

Not all guidebooks are made the same. While families may do well with Frommers or Rick Steves, you're not going to get the lowdown on where other travelers congregate or where the best bars are. Likewise, pick up a Wallpaper guide only when you're hitting a big city with a friend or significant other. Swanky bars with $20 drinks are not exactly solo travel friendly. Try Lonely Planet or Rough Guides, two of the most popular guides used by solo travelers.

4. Be friendly and inquisitive

Step outside your comfort zone and talk to anyone and everyone who looks friendly. You'll find that the majority of other travelers are happy to strike up a convo and maybe even invite you to do things together. When I first landed in Costa Rica, I realized my only options to town were an $80 two hour cab ride or a $2 five hour bus ride. When I spotted a lost-looking gangly tall gringo, I knew immediately he was likely going to the same town I was. So I quickly started chatting him up. We ended up sharing a cab ride into town, I saved myself $40 and made a new friend.

5. Select a traveler-friendly hotel

A chain hotel is not your friend. Neither is a five star hotel. I learned the hard way my first time in Prague when I selected places to stay based on price and how nice their linens were. I ended up staying in places totally void of other solo travelers and ended up crying myself to sleep at night. When looking for a hotel, look for words like "lively", "friendly", and yes, even "party". These are the places where you're more likely to make friends. In addition to consulting your guidebook, check out tripadvisor.com and filter the reviews by solo traveler.

6. Engage in group activities

Sure, you could rent a bike and explore the town on your own, but then who would you meet? No one. Instead, join a group bike tour, a snorkeling expedition, or beer crawl. Tours and group activities are one of the easiest ways to make new friends. After going on a bike tour of Munich, I befriended a fellow traveler who accompanied me to a local beer hall. We ended up making friends with an older local couple who told us stories of surviving WW II. 

2011...the final tally.

So, it looks like 2011 closes up with 23 cities. Starts with Atlanta, ends with New York City. Three different countries represented. All in all, a GREAT year!

I am SUPER excited to see what 2012 brings! Of course, I already have some great trips planned. Of course, my goal is to be good about blogging them. We'll see how this pans out.

I think I'll definitely do the sidebar again though -- because it's fun! And while I don't think I'll top 23 in 2012, it'll still be fun to see how it does compare.

2012...so it begins.

2011 

Atlanta, Georgia

Sydney, Australia

Parramatta, Australia

Jacksonville, Florida

Las Vegas, Nevada

Orlando, Florida

Chattanooga, Tennessee

Nassau, Bahamas

Freeport, Bahamas

Naples, Florida

Marco Island, Florida

Chicago, Illinois

Seattle, Washington

Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada

Forks, Washington

La Push, Washington

Fletcher, North Carolina

Asheville, North Carolina

Indianapolis, Indiana

Cincinnati, Ohio

St. Louis, Missouri

Great Stirrup Cay, Bahamas 

New York City, New York

Book review: Wanderlove by Kirsten Hubbard

For those of you who don't know, I help run a book review blog: Book Nerds Across America. One of my most recent reads is a book called Wanderlove, which was written by a young adult book author and travel writer, Kirsten Hubbard. Since the book is about travel, I thought I would share my review here as well:

It's no secret among my friends that I am the big Travel Girl. I have been to several states and several countries and have no intention of stopping anytime soon. In fact, I even have a travel blog -- On Wanderlust. I have been really bad with updating it, but I bring it up for this reason. I have always loved the word wanderlust. I feel it describes me so well, and it has this dark, mysterious sound to it as it's coming off of your tongue: wanderlust.

So, along comes Kirsten Hubbard and IMPROVES upon one of my favorite words. Believe it or not, I did not even make the connection to wanderlust and Wanderlove when I first saw the book. I just wanted to read it because I read that Kirsten Hubbard is a young adult author and a travel writer. This basically makes her my hero.

Wanderlove is the story of Bria, a recent high school graduate who has just broken up with her longtime boyfriend Toby. She plans to take an overseas with her two girlfriends, but they tell her they don't think she's ready and back out. But Bria decides to go anyway. She heads to Central America with a travel group, but ends up abandoning them in favor of traveling with two backpackers, Starling and Rowan.

As any good travel writing piece, Wanderlove makes you want to drop your life and run off to Central America. Hubbard is so great with the details of the destinations. She does not just tell you about them -- all five senses are awakened as you see, smell, touch, taste and hear them. Bria (and Kirsten) are artists, so there are some great sketches throughout the book.

Rowan and Bria are both broken characters. They both start traveling to run away from the pain in their pasts and both discover that they learn about themselves through the people and experiences they meet along the way. At points this book felt like it was trying too hard to be deep and meaningful. The insights and life lessons were sometimes too much: too long-winded and too over-stated. But I did like seeing the changes that Bria and Rowan brought about in each other.

Finally, I have not forgotten Wanderlove! Here is how it's described, courtesy of Starling:

"Wanderlust is like itchy feet. It's when you can't settle down. But Wanderlove is much deeper than that. It's a compulsion. It's the difference between lust and love."So, am I in wanderlust or Wanderlove?! Personally, I think I have been in both before and will be in both again. In the meantime, I hope there are books like Wanderlove to keep my spirit traveling between trips.

Wanderlove will be released March 13, 2012. Thank you to Netgalley for provided me with an Advanced Readers Copy.

Matador U

Go read about my adventures on florence.matadoru.com!

Since I'm doing such a great job keeping this travel blog updated -- yes, that IS sarcasm in use there -- I have decided to start another one!

Okay, what's really happening is that I am finally starting my Matador U Travel Writing Course. I am uber excited about this one! For the next few months I will be learning about the ins and outs of travel writing. I have to upkeep a blog to go along with it, so most likely I will have to ignore this one for a bit and focus on that. If you'd like to keep up with that one, it's also On Wanderlust: http://florence.matadoru.com/.

I will still be updating up my "2011 So Far..." list on this blog, though. I'm really enjoying seeing where all my adventures for the year are taking me, and I hope you are, too!

Road trippin'

Image from bgsu.edu

I'm taking a mini trip this weekend to see a friend in Naples. Florida, not Italy. I may be going to Naples, Italy next year though! Press your thumbs, as my friend in Germany always says! (It's the same thing as crossing your fingers.)  Back but to the trip this weekend: It'll be a nice, sunny (I'm being optimistic, people! The Secret works!) drive to the other side of the state.

When I was in high school, my family drove to visit my sister in college every year. It was about a 14 hour drive, I believe. So every year, I made mix tapes (and I just dated myself!) to help make the trip more bearable.

Later on when I went to college and eventually grad school, I started making mixed CDs (see, we've moved up!) of my own for the trips. I literally made a new one every semester, and they're named things like "Christmas [Insert Year]."

Anyway, I was just thinking about all this. Maybe I'll make a playlist for my iPod (this blog post could just be about upgrades in music technology -- lol!) just for this trip.

What would you put on a road trip playlist?

Flo #Fail

Yeah, so what I said about writing on this blog more than once every six months....? *cough, cough*

Well, I have been keeping the "2011 So Far" list updated, at least. Can I get a cookie for that?

Seriously, though, I have lots of trips in the works (as always!) so stay tuned...

My Daily Horoscope

Aries - February 2, 2011

Your innate sense of adventure is active today, Aries. Travel is on your mind. You and some friends may kick around ideas for an unconventional trip to an exotic place, such as sailing to Tahiti. The urge could pass, but it might not. Do some research and find out what your options really are. It might not work out as you visualized, but a little adventure could do you some good.

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